Gaslighting is a term used in plays to enhance dominance over others by cleverly manipulating other people’s psychology or situations to make them doubt themselves. As gaslighting means, it is often done in close or intimate relationships, such as families, schools, and lovers, who can influence each other. Today, we are going to learn about the meaning of gaslighting, examples of gaslighting, and how to treat gaslighting.
Gaslighting Meaning [Example and Treatment Method]
Gaslighting is the act of manipulating the mind or situation of others, such as rejection, conversion, disregard, oblivion, rebuttal, and denial. This refers to the act of controlling and managing other people. Naturally, gaslighting is psychological abuse. Gaslighting is not something that happens from afar, like someone else’s, but it often happens in close relationships with friends, lovers, and family around us, as well as at school or work.
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Gaslighting meaning, gaslighting examples, and gaslighting treatment methods
The perpetrator of gaslighting loses the victim’s self-esteem and ability to judge, and in the process, the victim, who is socially isolated and weakened in mental strength, creates a psychological situation in which he has no choice but to depend more on the perpetrator. In particular, it is said that most victims of gaslighting are unaware that they are being gaslighted because the perpetrator persuades them by saying that they are for the victims.
Gaslighting progress stage
There are three main stages of being gaslighted. 가스라이팅 뜻
distrust 좋은뉴스
When the other person raises questions about an obvious fact, you are confused and try to persuade him
self defense
Victim still has her own thoughts and feelings, but is exhausted from criticism
suppression
A state in which the thoughts and feelings of the victim belong to the perpetrator
Gaslighting example
As mentioned earlier, the meaning of gaslighting comes from the play Gas Light. Robin Stern, an American psychoanalytic psychotherapist, coined the term ‘Gaslight Effect’ after seeing the play and first introduced it to the world by quoting the title. In terms of the content of this play, it is a film that focuses on the story of a husband who approaches her wife’s fortune. It is said that the husband used all kinds of lies to draw a detailed picture of the process of turning her wife into a psychopath, which became a big topic at the time. This husband’s behavior is consistent with the meaning of gaslighting. The term gaslighting was coined through theatre, and a person who engages in this activity is sometimes called a gaslighter. Let’s take a gaslighting example. There are two events known to us in the near future.
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Gaslighting meaning, gaslighting examples, and gaslighting treatment methods
Actress Seo Ye-ji’s gaslighting case
The first example of gaslighting is the case of actress Seo Ye-ji. The gaslighting controversy between Seo Ye-ji and her ex-boyfriend Kim Jung-hyeon was a controversial issue that occurred when the love story of the two was revealed. At that time, Seo Ye-ji’s boyfriend, Kim Jeong-hyeon, who was appearing in the drama, gaslighted so that he could not have physical contact with the other actor, and caused a lot of damage to the filming of the drama, causing a scandal. In this regard, Seo Ye-ji apologized for causing a controversy over her boyfriend Kim Jung-hyun’s gas lighting due to her immature behavior in the past, and is naturally aiming for her comeback.
Gapyeong Valley Drowning Case
The gaslighting case of the Gapyeong Valley drowning incident is still hot today. Yoon, who worked as a researcher for over 10 years and received an annual salary of 60 million won, drowned while playing with her spouse Lee Eun-hae in the Gapyeong Valley. The deceased, Mr. Yun, was in a good financial condition before marriage, and at the time of his death, he even applied for his personal rehabilitation. Yoon’s older sister complained of injustice through a national petition, saying, “Even after 15 years of working hard, she has no balance and only a lot of debt left in front of her younger brother.”
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Gaslighting meaning, gaslighting examples, and gaslighting treatment methods
It turned out that Yoon, who had been completely gaslighted by his spouse Lee Eun-hae, was in an extremely difficult situation mentally trying to raise money by illegally selling organs, and even tried to commit suicide by searching for a climbing rope on the Internet. Her daughter, whom Lee Eun-hae gave birth to, was also placed in her family register, and her car and house were all exploited by Lee Eun-hae.
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Gaslighting meaning, gaslighting examples, and gaslighting treatment methods
However, what is more difficult to understand is the fact that, despite suffering from such debt, the insurance has been paid for and maintained. As a result, the death benefit received by Eun-hae Lee due to Yoon’s death amounted to 800 million won. Eun-Hae Lee, a month after her husband’s death, goes on a trip on her own social media site and does the nonsensical act of posting pictures of her that she is proud of. Even at the time of her marriage, her husband is having a hard time, but KakaoTalk, where she spends all her money as she confronts her husband, is released, making her surroundings even more pitiful.
Gaslighting self-diagnosis
How to diagnose the actual gaslighting condition.
I lie because I’m afraid he’ll threaten me
You often make excuses to those around you for your actions.
She’s never heard of things like, “I’ve never said anything like that, you must have just imagined it.”
She told the person, “This is why you’re being ignored”, “You have to endure criticism”, “You’re too sensitive”
Somehow, in the end, things go their way
Before you meet the person, you check to see if there is anything wrong with them.
When she gets to know him, the telegram does not enjoy life and loses self-confidence.
How to treat gaslighting
If you are convinced that you are also being gaslighted by these or other incidents, it is best to distance yourself from your relationship with that person. Gaslighting perpetrators can re-engage themselves and unwittingly become a gaslighting victim again.
If you have a tendency to act and think according to what others say, like a gaslighting victim, you should know how to speak your mind rather than trust what others say first, and practice having confidence in yourself by finding out for yourself. Practicing these behaviors will help you express yourself to the perpetrator or the other person and get you out of gaslighting situations. This concludes the post about the meaning of gaslighting, examples of gaslighting, and how to treat gaslighting.